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I must admit that there is a glaring omission in my crash course to quality porn. There’s no reference to guy on guy. Gay porn was never a strong suit for High On Sex. Although this is mostly a reflection of my hetero-leaning orientation, I can’t discount the contribution the status quo has had on the content I consume and share. If gay porn were treated like lesbian porn, then there would certainly be more good gay content to stumble upon and disperse. But this isn’t the state we’re in.

Allow me to repeat the feminist rants against the patriarchy: It’s a straight-man’s world where women are the visually sexualized sex. Through advertising, art, and entertainment we learn that girls are supposed to be sexy & beautiful. Straight women are allowed to admire (even be turned on by) female models. Men, on the other hand, can’t stare at the male performer’s ass.

And when people say ‘gay porn’ they mean man-on-man. Girls eating pussy isn’t “gay.” It’s hot. It’s contradictory, but lesbianism in porn is not a big deal to a supposedly homophobic porn viewer. And when they talk about ‘lesbian porn’ they mean the Viv Thomas variety, which is targeted toward straight men not lesbians.

‘Lesbian’ just doesn’t have the weight of male and gay. It’s practically a requirement for female porn stars to do girl-girl scenes. Many, who don’t identify themselves as lesbians, choose to only perform with girls on camera. From this we can gather that society sees women as bisexual by default, which adds to their already high sex appeal (yay for straight men). With that settled there’s no need to label a girl-on-girl-on-guy group scene ‘bi porn.’ This label only applies if a man blows or penetrates another man in an MMF scene.

Is it not a double standard for gay-man sex to be segregated exclusively for a gay/bi male audience? ‘Dyke’ porn exists primarily for the lesbian demographic, yet the totality of lesbian sex is not exclusive to a gay/bi female audience. Lack of male gayness in ‘straight’ porn is inconsistent with the fact that lesbian sex acts are common in for-straight porn productions.

Hetero-man’s perspective on sexuality has been passed on to all. Look at a number of erotic blogs run by women and you’ll have to navigate a few pages back to find a single photo that focuses on a man and may never find one of a guy fucking another guy. Yet that one sexy lesbian photo is reblogged on every straight guy’s and girl’s tumblelog.

Because the imagery of the male exhibitionist and man-on-man sexuality is assigned to one niche, production of such content is limited. The demand for straight/lipstick lesbian porn overshadows that of gay content. Simple mathematics says that there’s less quality gay content to find than straight and that it’s harder to discover among the mounds of pussy and boobs. In all fairness, one can’t criticize ambisexual bloggers for not posting enough content with manly eroticism. It’s not so much any individual’s or group’s fault as it is the state of society.

Unless gay and solo-male sexiness becomes more acceptable and thus grows in demand, images of straight sex and sexy women are going to be the main attraction for most erotophiles. Female or Male, it’s irrelevant if you identify as somewhere in between a 0 and a 3 on the Kinsey Scale. Our culture is inclined to glamorize girls.

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